Saturday, January 27, 2007

When cupid strikes disaster

Epilogue

Now having committed a cardinal sin of starting a blog, which requires me to whip my brains (which have been rusty for about years now) in order to post something new. Thanks to the pathetic hits on my blog page, and the few readers who make a mockery out of my posts. I have started to realize that I am by no means a born blogger, and the amount of brain whacking I need to put in to compile a single post, might have earned me a seat in the IITs/IIMs

Well, what inspired me to start a blog of a this kind??, Well having been studying the password characteristics (be it email/windows logon passwords) of my friends and colleagues, (either by peeping over the shoulders, or installing key-loggers), for sometime now and started to wonder why ……... most people stop changing passwords ever since they fell in love for the first time ever. (Nope, I am not into net-forensics or cyber security, nor I am a phisher)

Over a period of 5 year, ever since the days of my graduation I happen to be very close to people who have transformed from sensible/logical individuals to stupid/senseless ones. Yes, Love is a victory of imagination over reality, especially when things are one sided, I always wondered what is it, that creates an delusion which makes the college’s most good looking female stare at you.

I failed miserably inspite of my continuous efforts to convince many of my friends, that when a Girl says “No”, it means a “No” in contrary to the myth that Bollywood has imbibed in most of us.

“I just cannot imagine my life without you………” is quite a monotonous quote often said with utmost loyalty and sincerity. Each one of us is unique in our own ways, and finding a partner for oneself is not as tough as matching a DNA specimen, The whole concept of “Marriages are made in heaven” doesn’t sound too genuine to me, as I certainly believe that the god almighty has better things to do, than fixing up a Abhishek- Aishwarya wedding.

Why is that we choose people as best friends for life in a matter of days/months and take years/ages to choose someone special, or perhaps wait for the almighty to fix up a date.

Reminds me of my ex-colleague, who still believes that the crush he had in college 4 years ago, is/was/would be the only girl in his life, and has completely given up on the idea of marriage.

The crux of this post being, “Be Loyal to your partner in a relationship, not outside it”

I know more than a couple of people who just like many people in their early thirties struggling to find a right match and often having to compromise on lot many things, the right age for marriage is altogether an different debate, which I will surely be touching upon in my next blog.

Most of the people I have come across suffer from the First-Love Syndrome; ask a guy who has been ditched more than once, about life beyond First Love.

It’s easier said than done; arguably it is very difficult to come out of a break-up, especially if it’s been your first one.

There is a first time for everything any anything, your first love, the first job, but there is life beyond every first……………, but how you overcome it, is the big question, unfortunately there is no single common solution that is applicable to every individual.

Or may be Microsoft/Yahoo/Google should be bringing in stringent password policies.

5 comments:

Sanny said...

"When cupid strikes disaster" -- I thought you were writing abt u getting in love or something .. thank god it wasnt the story .... hahaha


Well as for the post ... TRUE ... very True .. :))

Somya said...

Interesting post. But believe me probably we all would agree to what u r saying but somewhere deep down in our heart we all want to fall in love once and experience the eternal happiness despite we all are aware how much it puts our life offbalance.

Unknown said...

@Somya.... thanks for the visit.

"somewhere deep down in our heart we all want to fall in love once"

you have hit the nail on the head....

it seems so stupid, unless you are in it... :)

Ranjan said...

yeah 'love' makes a man fool and the best thing is that he start seeing the woman in love as the most sensible, inteligent, adorable, lovable human being.
The reason being the focus shifts from mind to heart and heart is lousy thinker!
Its a complex thing you cant save a person who is in love ... only time can.

But being in love is a good experiance... one should never miss that.

And there is another interesting fact.. you fall in love only once and after that its all adjustment.
You know there is a great diffrence when you say some one "i am in love with you" and " I love you".

Paddie said...

hmm..quite an interesting blog n quite an interesting series of comments too!! well i wud say just one thing.. y do v need to judge ppl around who is gud n who is bad.. its ok..its der personal life.. lets not say a guy in love is a fool or a gal trying to line maarofy is at da back of u or watever.. if someone is in love..cool..gr8..njoi...wen u r out of it..cool again..come to me dear..aakhir dost hote kisliye hain...dosti ki hai nibhaani toh padegi..pyaar thode hi kiya hai jo dhoka denge:))..wat say harsha?

Quote for now (until i change it)

"9 out of 10 times I stick to what I say & believe purely out of conviction, sometimes its the ego that takes over" -Harsha